september 11, 2005 will bring with it the dawn of my 24th birthday!
i worry about how old i am sometimes but then i think about 24 i am like, 'holy fuck! i'm young!!'
(i am obviously young; look how much i swear and blog...)
now, since i am 23 it can be correctly assumed that the majority of people around me are also around the same age, say 20-26-ish... now in this 20-26-ish age range that i find myself a part of, there are a good chunk of people who feel that at 23-24 they are starting to get OLD; and by old they mean ADULT.
i am NOT an adult.
part of the adulthood that these people who surround me are attempting to grab hold of is the marriage/breeding/house owning thing...
(does anyone else feel a chill as they read that?)
i am NOT into that. at least not now, when i am still young!
my best friend is getting married in july and they take possession of their brand spankin' new digs on the 31st of May...fuck me gently with a chainsaw!!
but i wish them all the best and that isn't the point of my post. the point of my post is this: until recently i was under the assumption that this nesting instinct was almost exclusively a female thing due to our indoctrination at an early age that in order to live complete and full lives we must marry and have babies.
until recently...
last week one of my dearest friends was unceremoniously dumped by her boyfriend because he was looking for a little permanency...
actually, he felt his biological clock ticking!! what the fuck boys? y'all can have kids for a long long time...i only have another 15-20 years left of breeding ability and i'm not worried. this dude's got another like...30 years at least...
so, i'm stumped. i understand (although do not agree with) the reasons why women feel like this but since when do guys feel pressure? maybe i have been living in my own little oppressed bubble and didn't notice.
so boys i am offering you a forum to discuss whether or not you feel pressured by whomever to listen to your biological clock and buy a house...talk to me.
michelle, curious.
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Anyone who wants kids is a moron. Well, I wouldn't go that far, cuz that'd be calling my parents morons, and they obviously can't be to give birth to such an awesome being as myself. I don't find children enjoyable. But I suppose some people do, and that's ok.
I don't enjoy renting, but I can't afford to buy a house, so that's what I do. Plus I don't like having roots somewhere that I can't just pull up when I want to jet - and a house is a form of those roots. Or perhaps 'handcuffs' would be a better term.
But to have your 'biological clock' ticking any time before 26 is weird, in my books. I'm pretty sure the batteries for mine ran out at age 15. Hence my immaturity.
I also do not possess the desire to have kids. However, I do have a possible explaination for why some men seek "permanency". Simply put, a house, wife, and children are all signs of success in our society. Sure, being a swinging bachelor is also a sign of success, but I think we've seen that men feel the need to be viewed as "legit" as well. These dual desires often lead to disasterous relationships and divorce.
aren't roots scarier than handcuffs jeff? all you need to get out of handcuffs is a key. roots can never been completely lifted without some sort of violent invasion...
kids are scary. my body almost physically rejects the notion of having children.
there's a story.
but that's for another time.
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